Photo of the Jesus Boat, Israel
I took my special needs son to a special needs swim class the other day, for the first time. For some reason, it took us two weeks to get actually show up. But, we finally made it two days ago, and it blessed our socks off!
Why did it take so long?
Well, we had to overcome a lot of adversity to get there.
The first week we were supposed to have lessons, but one crazy thing after another occurred.
I raced to leave, ran late, and then forgot the directions. On the way, my car's rearview mirror simply broke off. So between the 9 million things going on, and my son's obsession with swim lessons (he talked nonstop), we missed the lesson altogether.
Seriously, somewhere between the lack of sleep, chaos, and bizarre events, my brain simply shut down and I could not beat the clock.
I have never done that before. Yet, I had to laugh.
The second week, the car had to go into the shop.
By this time, I simply resigned myself to the fact that we were not going to make it...again.
A parent of a normal family might say, What are you doing even leaving the house?!
As special needs parents, we know the reality...because WE HAVE TO! And, I will point out, that we did finally make it to swim lessons, once the time was right.
Or, at least, that is how I viewed it.
As special needs parents, we juggle a lot
We strive to be invincible, overcoming great odds, no matter what they tell us, and act as our children's advocates. We struggle with more responsibilities than the typical parent, and not little crises either, but the big whopper events, of course, and when we least expect it.
So, obviously, reality gives way, and yes, the only way to walk on water, is if we have enough faith. Somedays I simply feel stunned at what just happened.
Life throws us all curves and unexpected twists, and we find ourselves trying to have faith and hope for the future.
The alternative is that we could end up staying home all day, but I think the point here is that we have to try. I guess, but even when our physical and mental abilities fail us, God picks up the slack where He wants us to be. He does manage to keep us afloat.
Normal parents sometimes say things like, "I don't know how you do it!" Or, "You are a special mom to have a special needs kid."
What they missed is that most of us don't think of ourselves in this light at all.
The difference comes in how we handle this.
This disability, illness, disease, genetic syndrome, or whatever, makes life challenging. It is the obstacle that God chooses to conquer through us, and others, as He chooses. We are merely His instruments to help our kids as much as we can.
It is as if the Lord is saying, here is your thorn, which I gave you, which will keep you humble before Me. You will call out to me, and I will answer you, but I may not respond in the way that you expect. I will bring victory out of your child's life and they will run free in heaven. There is hope for the future of your family.
We are Joshua fighting the battle of Jericho.
We are Judith, the only one brave enough to bring down the enemy.
We are David fighting Goliath.
We are Nehemiah, attempting to rebuild the walls of health around our family.
We are Lot leaving Sodom and Gomorrah.
We are Joseph being sold into slavery, only to discover God's plan for our lives.
We can overcome.
With the help of Jesus Christ, through the power of the Holy Spirit, we will overcome. No, our lives may not fit into the perfect American church family, be cool, hip, or luxurious, as special needs parents.
But, the good news is that we, as special needs parents, really have it easy because the pressure is off. We are excused from wanting the perfect life, filled with emptiness, and we won't be ridiculed by others who do prioritize those things. We will never really have the opportunity to become arrogant or too comfortable.
Instead, we received a life of:
depth,
deep peace,
miracles,
Holy Spirit,
purpose,
truth,
integrity,
AND LOVE.
We are in the Jesus Boat, and that is where we need to stay.
For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope. Jeremiah 29:11
In His grip~Kim
Originally published on 7/21/2013